Self sabotage slayers

Helping women stop working against themselves and start building lives that feel more like their own.

Self Sabotage Slayers is a supportive space for women who are tired of self-doubt, overthinking, people-pleasing and feeling disconnected from themselves.

Through practical resources, honest conversations, community and personal growth tools, you'll find support to better understand yourself and create a life that feels calmer, healthier and more aligned with who you are.

You Might Be In The Right Place If...

You spend so much time looking after everyone else that you've stopped paying attention to what you need.

You constantly second-guess yourself, even when you know you're capable.

You feel stuck between the life you're living and the life you quietly wish you were building.

You're tired of being your own harshest critic.

You find yourself repeating the same patterns, habits or decisions, despite wanting something different.

You feel like you're carrying a lot, but struggle to explain exactly why.

You've spent years being responsible, reliable and everything everyone else needed you to be... and now you're wondering where you fit into the picture.

You want personal growth that feels realistic, supportive and achievable in real life.

You want a life that feels calmer, more meaningful and more like your own.

If you're nodding along, you're in the right place.

Our mission

To empower women to overcome self-sabotage, heal from emotional overwhelm, reconnect with their worth, and create lasting transformation through support, self-awareness, healing tools, and community.

Are you tired of holding everything together on the outside while feeling disconnected from yourself on the inside?

Maybe you've spent years putting everyone else's needs first.

Maybe you're caught in cycles of self-doubt, overthinking, people-pleasing or constantly feeling like you're falling short, no matter how much you do.

If so, you're not alone.

Self Sabotage Slayers was created to help women understand themselves more deeply, break free from the patterns keeping them stuck, and build lives that feel calmer, healthier and more aligned with who they truly are.

Through honest conversations, practical tools, supportive community and meaningful personal growth, we focus on helping women rebuild self-trust, strengthen confidence and stop working against themselves every step of the way.

Because life becomes very different when you stop trying to become who you think you should be and start creating a life that genuinely feels like yours.

Founder vision

"My goal is to create the kind of space where women feel understood, supported and encouraged without pressure or judgement."

"Everything inside Self Sabotage Slayers is designed to help women work with themselves instead of constantly against themselves."

A place where women don't have to pretend everything is fine.

Support that feels realistic and achievable.

Gentle growth instead of constant pressure.

Tools that fit real life.

A community that understands.

"Everything inside Self Sabotage Slayers is designed to help women work with themselves instead of constantly against themselves."

Hello lovely, I’m Willow,

Mum, friend, and founder of life being Willow and Self Sabotage Slayers

Somebody who knows what it feels like to lose yourself while trying to hold everything together.

For a long time, I thought strength meant carrying on.

Pushing through.

Looking after everyone else.

Keeping all the plates spinning, even when I was struggling myself.

From the outside, life often looked fine.

On the inside, it felt very different.

Over the years, life handed me experiences I wasn't prepared for. The end of a relationship, losing loved ones, a serious car accident, health challenges and seasons where I barely recognised the person staring back at me in the mirror.

Little by little, my confidence disappeared.

My routines disappeared.

The version of myself I once felt connected to seemed further away with each passing year.

I kept waiting for a breakthrough moment.

A dramatic turning point.

Something that would magically put everything back together again.

It never came.

What did come were small decisions.

The decision to start paying attention to how I spoke to myself.

The decision to stop putting my own needs at the bottom of every list.

The decision to learn, grow, heal and take responsibility for the parts of my life I could influence.

None of it happened overnight.

Most of it happened quietly.

One choice.
One lesson.
One difficult day at a time.

Then, somewhere during that process, I realised something that changed everything.

Many women aren't failing.

They aren't lazy.

They aren't incapable.

They're carrying invisible expectations, old wounds, self-doubt and patterns that were never theirs to begin with.

They're trying to build a life while constantly fighting themselves along the way.

That's why I created Self Sabotage Slayers.

Not as another place telling women they need to be more productive, more successful or more perfect.

But as a place where women can learn to understand themselves, trust themselves and stop standing in their own way.

A place for honest conversations.

For small steps.

For rebuilding confidence.

For creating lives that feel calmer, healthier, more meaningful and more their own.

My hope is that when you arrive here, you feel a little less alone.

A little more understood.

A little more hopeful about what comes next.

No matter how stuck life feels right now, your story isn't finished, and you don't have to figure it all out alone.

With love,

Willow x

find what you need

I wish I could tell you there was one thing that changed everything for me.

One book.

One course.

One conversation.

One magical Monday morning where I suddenly became confident, organised and completely sorted out.

That isn't what happened.

Most of the changes that helped me happened quietly.

A podcast while driving.

A journal page filled with messy thoughts.

A small habit I repeated often enough that it finally stuck.

A realisation that arrived while folding washing.

A conversation that made me look at something differently.

Self Sabotage Slayers has been built from those kinds of moments.

The things that helped.

The things I wish I'd known sooner.

The things I still come back to now.

the membership

The membership is where things become a little more personal.

Every month we explore a different theme together.

There are worksheets, workshops, discussions, challenges and resources, but the real value is having a place to keep returning to when life feels noisy.

Some months you'll be motivated.

Some months you'll be tired.

Both versions of you are welcome.

The experience

Building a life that actually feels like yours

Each experience you'll find, began with a question I couldn't stop thinking about:

How many people are living lives that look fine on paper but don't actually feel like their own?

Over the years, many of us collect expectations, responsibilities and routines without ever stopping to ask whether they still fit.

Each journey is an invitation to pause and ask different questions.

Not "How do I become somebody else?"

But:

What matters to me now?

What have I outgrown?

What do I want more of?

What would a life that feels like mine actually look like?

Newsletter

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Every week I share reflections, encouragement, resources and thoughts from behind the scenes of Self Sabotage Slayers.

No spam.

No pressure.

Just real conversations about real life.